Requirements for Marriage

MARRIAGE PREPARATION and INFORMATION

THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE

Marriage is one of the sacraments of the Orthodox Church. Orthodox Christians who marry must marry in the Church or Monastery Chapel in order to be in sacramental communion with the Church. We do not do “Garden Weddings” or weddings off the Church/Chapel property.

MANDATORY REQUIREMENT

The Orthodox Church permits the marriage of an Orthodox Christian and another Trinitarian Christian through the Orthodox concept of economia (a type of theological dispensation), But Orthodox Custom & Tradition Mandates that at least one of the two individuals MUST be an Orthodox Christian in Good Standing.

The Church’s concern is for each person’s salvation, and therefore does not desire to place an insurmountable obstacle before her faithful by denying the Sacrament of Marriage to those who seek an inter-Christian marriage.

DATES ON WHICH MARRIAGES CANNOT BE PERFORMED

  • During Great Lent and Holy Week
  • On the eves or Feast days of our Lord
  • January 5-6  Baptism of our Lord
  • August 1-15 – Fast period of the Assumption and Feast Day of the Assumption
  • August 29 – Feast of the Beheading of St John the Baptist
  • September 14 – Feast of Holy Cross
  • Christmas Fast – December 13-25.

MARRIAGE REQUIREMENTS

  • Episcopal permission must be acquired at least one month in advance.
  • Civil marriage license must be obtained prior to the wedding and a copy be given to the priest prior to the conduct of the wedding.
  • Marriage must be conducted according to Orthodox Liturgical tradition.
  • Either of the couples must be members in good standing of an Orthodox parish.
  • Both couples must be baptized in the name of the Trinity.
  • Divorcees must obtain an ecclesiastic divorce prior to the wedding.
  • No individual may marry more than once in the Church. Marriage is a Sacrament and as such couples are married for life.

PROHIBITED MARRIAGES AMONG BELIEVERS

  • Brothers and Sisters.
  • First & Second Cousins.
  • Godparents with godchildren.

MARRIAGE PREPARATION SEMINARS

Marriage Preparation Seminars serve to provide engaged couples practical information regarding the elements of an Orthodox marriage in the hopes of helping to contribute to a successful marriage.

The seminars are required by all couples who are marrying at the monastery.

Marriage, in the Orthodox faith, requires a sacrificial love, which, as many things in life, is a learned experience, so that the couple becomes one in thought, one in action, one in flesh.

Holy Matrimony is a life-long Sacrament at the time of the ceremony; it is a Sacrament that continues to be experienced throughout the couple’s life. The couple is also encouraged to receive the sacrament of Confession and the Sacrament of Holy Communion as part of their preparation for marriage. By doing so they have the opportunity to bring a new vitality, a spirit and bond into their marriage that will enhance and deepen their lives.

WHAT TO BRING

  • Rings for Both.
  • Crowns (these can be according to the couples tradition).
  • White Candles (2 large).
  • Sweet Red Wine